Questions For a Homeschooling Mom Vol. 3
Last week in Vol. 2, we answered the question, do you need to have a teaching degree to homeschool. Continuing in our Homeschooling series,this week’s question is:
How do you homeschool? I don’t have the patience.
Answer: Some days I don’t either.
Not every day is going to go smoothly. We have our off days and when we do, we have the flexibility to take a break, work outside or even finish up the next day if we want to. I can tailor things to the needs of my children when things come up.
I think a lot of people look at the afterschool homework time as what they could expect from homeschooling. If they have a hard time getting their child to do his/her homework afterschool and it’s a really frustrating time, then they think that must be what it’s like to homeschool. It’s not.
Granted I can only speak for my family, but you figure out what works for each individual child and you tailor it to him/her. Each one of my children is different. They each learn at a different level, like to have a different level of help, etc. and that is one of the reasons I love homeschooling. I can meet each one of them at his/her specific need. I also realize that it might change from week to week or even day to day. Although, sometimes I do forget this and that’s why I say that sometimes I don’t have the patience either.
It has helped me to make sure that I get myself organized. I think most of my issues with my patience level come from me not being ready to start my day or not being organized. I am a very structured, organized person so if I have their school work organized before we begin, then the day goes much better.
I have also had to work on letting go. I was stuck on keeping the kids on target with their assignments, no matter what. Then I realized that, that wasn’t necessary. In homeschool, it was ok for us to be flexible because they will catch up when they are ready to.
I have always been worried about my kids being behind. In the end they have always proven to me that I didn’t need to worry. They have always shown me that they will learn when they are ready and be as brilliant as ever without me pushing them.
Take my youngest daughter, who’s now 8. She has been hospitalized 5 times in a two year period. When she is in the hospital, she’s there for sometimes 2 weeks at a time and there’s no way that I can or would try to get her to do any school work. If she’s in the hospital, she’s there for a reason. To get better. She’s miserable and forcing her to keep up with her homework is just something that I don’t make her do.
Her twin brother, however, was home working on his schoolwork with Grandma. I would consider both of the twins equally intelligent. I was worried that Faith would fall behind. As soon as she got home and felt well enough to start her school work, she caught right back up to her brother. She isn’t behind at all.
You may not think you have the patience to homeschool but believe me if I can do it, so can you.